Boys, you’re being graded

Posted on April 3, 2009 at 07:39am

Dad once e-mailed me a “guideline” or set of criteria that he and Mom created to help me measure against a potential boyfriend.

This is my current thinking, it is not cast in stone. The points system is the guidelines. It might change a little, but not that much.

1) Christian 50 points
2) Same or similar family background in term of social, economic and educational 5 points each
3) Health 10 points
4) Education 5 points for PhD Professional, 3 points for Master, 1 point for BA
5) Personality 10 points
6) 10 points parent’s discretion

Our Passing grade is 85 points, out of 100 points.

85 of 100 is a passing grade? That’s pretty generous, considering that 10 years ago in high school, 95% was “barely an A”.

Bookmark and Share
My Dad is a Fob now has a Facebook page! Please take a moment to fan us, thanks!

Filed Under: E-mails



1 Star2 Stars3 Stars4 Stars5 Stars (244 votes, average: 4.86 out of 5)
Loading ... Loading ...



  • JJ
    Wow, my parents have the same thing!! Except since we are not Christians, they don't have a religion criteria. Instead they have more points for education, demeanor, hygiene, looks, and job. My parents also rate my cousin's significant others. Even with 65 as the passing grade, most boys I or my cousins dated received a score lower than 50 from my dad.
  • Jennifer
    To all the people dissing this parents' criteria that the guy has to be Christian, I think most fob/Asian parents would just want the same religion for their future son-in-law.

    My best friend is Hindu and her parents would stipulate a +50 points for any good Hindu boy. Just my .02
  • youdliketoknow
    anyone that gets cut for not being christian should be happy to not be in such a religiously repressed family.
  • Yuan
    Haha, the boyfriend HAS to be Christian, or else it wouldnt be a passing grade?
  • Safou
    Haha! My husband would score 20%! O.o
    or 70% considering he's not christian, but that we do share the same religion.

    And btw, the list does total 100 :
    1) 50
    2)5+5+5=15
    3)10
    4)5
    5)10
    6)10
    Total: 50+15+10+5+10+10 = 100
  • R
    LOL....passing is 85, but even if he got all the points, he would only have 90%
    50+5+10+5+10+10=90
  • J
    Lol thats so funny and yet cute of your parents
  • kimbec
    HAHAHHAHAHA AWW poor non-christians! with your guidelines no guy cant get to 85 points without being christian
  • Desigirl
    I love the honesty! people are like "ooh omg ur discriminating against non-christian" but obviously being christian is important to them, and is a big part of their life so why not ask for it? i'm muslim and not offended. btw, my fave part is the education. lmao.
  • Name
    since the "christian" criteria is really the main point of this scale (since it's worth 50 points) this post is more "fundamentalist christian" than "fob"
  • lovejessie
    hahah he has no choice but to be a christian
  • chanman
    Why +50 for Christian? My parents would deduct for Christian... Good traditional Chinese/Asian values reign supreme.
  • nanashix916
    lol, my parents would deduct as well. xD
  • rachel
    hahahahha only ONE point for ba? wow high expectations i love this guideline!!! :D :D and i can't believe they say 85 is passing. what happened to the asian parents who care aobut grades?? lol very cute!!!
  • chanman
    BA is the absolute minimum in "asian" education. hhaha. I'm surprised they would even give a single point for it. It's expected.
  • yulie
    wow........


    haha my bf scored 31 pts
  • sighasianparents
    This is hysterical, and coincidentally applicable to my life at this point in time. The difference my parents might add to this is...they'd probably put a bigger emphasis on education, and they might add a few extra categories:
    - Christian FAMILY (as well as Christian guy)
    - Same profession/field of study as me
    - Big Eyes. LOL. -______-
  • chelle
    Your parents are geniuses!

    We have tests to pass for everything else, why not something as important as the guy you marry!
  • S
    you know if he scores perfect on everything expect for being Christian... he's basically out...
  • LOL my boyfriend scored 98 points!!! I should forward this to my parents.
  • fallfall
    lol. might as well say if he's not a christian he's off limits.

    i wonder how long they labored after this list. it's cute.
  • Anon
    Poor atheists. :(
  • littlexone
    HAHA hilarious.
    Poor guyss.
  • tizzle
    HAHA, to pass this, you MUST be christian
  • WaterIsLife
    Wow, and here I thought they can't come up with anything worse. xD This scale is genius, except for the 'parental discretion' category. xD Without it, the least any good guy would get would be 86, which is 1 point above the passing (85) grade, hahaha. xD
  • atheistandstillgood
    ...since when did a "good" guy have to be christian? <_<
  • zak
    lmao asian pass is 80 xD
  • Guest
    So if he doesn't have a PhD, none of his higher education matters?
  • Margaret
    HAHAHA this is genius!

    "parent's discretion" =P
  • VeggieTempura
    The points don't even add up to 100!
  • Lili
    yes it does.

    "Same or similar family background in term of social, economic and educational 5 points each"

    15 pts here.
  • Denise
    ohhh classic.
  • L
    HAHAHHA
    love it.
  • Woot Asian Mothers
    But but....this means if the boy is from a different social, economic, and educational family background---all three of which he has no control over, and then doesn't have PHD, he's out?!
  • meeeee
    I took sociology in uni. One of the surprising stats showed that Socio Economic status and similar religion/values (or lack thereof) was the ONLY factor that showed up in all studies as being the indicator of whether a marriage would last 5 yrs or longer. (i.e. Divorces occur waayyyy more frequently if socio economic status and values differ)
blog comments powered by Disqus

HEY MYDADISAFOB READERS!

Send submissions and fan mail to mydadisafob(at)gmail.com.

Love,

Serena & Teresa

Highest Rated: The All Stars

Most Rated: The In Crowd

Most Commented: The Gossip Group

Most Recent: The True Fans