Boys, you’re being graded

April 3, 2009

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Dad once e-mailed me a “guideline” or set of criteria that he and Mom created to help me measure against a potential boyfriend.

This is my current thinking, it is not cast in stone. The points system is the guidelines. It might change a little, but not that much.

1) Christian 50 points
2) Same or similar family background in term of social, economic and educational 5 points each
3) Health 10 points
4) Education 5 points for PhD Professional, 3 points for Master, 1 point for BA
5) Personality 10 points
6) 10 points parent’s discretion

Our Passing grade is 85 points, out of 100 points.

85 of 100 is a passing grade? That’s pretty generous, considering that 10 years ago in high school, 95% was “barely an A”.

  • Woot Asian Mothers

    But but….this means if the boy is from a different social, economic, and educational family background—all three of which he has no control over, and then doesn't have PHD, he's out?!

  • L

    HAHAHHA
    love it.

  • Denise

    ohhh classic.

  • VeggieTempura

    The points don't even add up to 100!

  • Margaret

    HAHAHA this is genius!

    “parent's discretion” =P

  • Lili

    yes it does.

    “Same or similar family background in term of social, economic and educational 5 points each”

    15 pts here.

  • Lily

    So if he doesn't have a PhD, none of his higher education matters?

  • zak

    lmao asian pass is 80 xD

  • WaterIsLife

    Wow, and here I thought they can't come up with anything worse. xD This scale is genius, except for the 'parental discretion' category. xD Without it, the least any good guy would get would be 86, which is 1 point above the passing (85) grade, hahaha. xD

  • tizzle

    HAHA, to pass this, you MUST be christian

  • littlexone

    HAHA hilarious.
    Poor guyss.

  • Anon

    Poor atheists. :(

  • fallfall

    lol. might as well say if he's not a christian he's off limits.

    i wonder how long they labored after this list. it's cute.

  • http://www.yvonnesame.com Yvonne

    LOL my boyfriend scored 98 points!!! I should forward this to my parents.

  • S

    you know if he scores perfect on everything expect for being Christian… he's basically out…

  • chelle

    Your parents are geniuses!

    We have tests to pass for everything else, why not something as important as the guy you marry!

  • sighasianparents

    This is hysterical, and coincidentally applicable to my life at this point in time. The difference my parents might add to this is…they'd probably put a bigger emphasis on education, and they might add a few extra categories:
    - Christian FAMILY (as well as Christian guy)
    - Same profession/field of study as me
    - Big Eyes. LOL. -______-

  • yulie

    wow……..

    haha my bf scored 31 pts

  • atheistandstillgood

    …since when did a “good” guy have to be christian? <_<

  • rachel

    hahahahha only ONE point for ba? wow high expectations i love this guideline!!! :D :D and i can't believe they say 85 is passing. what happened to the asian parents who care aobut grades?? lol very cute!!!

  • chanman

    Why +50 for Christian? My parents would deduct for Christian… Good traditional Chinese/Asian values reign supreme.

  • chanman

    BA is the absolute minimum in “asian” education. hhaha. I'm surprised they would even give a single point for it. It's expected.

  • lovejessie

    hahah he has no choice but to be a christian

  • Name

    since the “christian” criteria is really the main point of this scale (since it's worth 50 points) this post is more “fundamentalist christian” than “fob”

  • Desigirl

    I love the honesty! people are like “ooh omg ur discriminating against non-christian” but obviously being christian is important to them, and is a big part of their life so why not ask for it? i'm muslim and not offended. btw, my fave part is the education. lmao.

  • kimbec

    HAHAHHAHAHA AWW poor non-christians! with your guidelines no guy cant get to 85 points without being christian

  • J

    Lol thats so funny and yet cute of your parents

  • nanashix916

    lol, my parents would deduct as well. xD

  • R

    LOL….passing is 85, but even if he got all the points, he would only have 90%
    50+5+10+5+10+10=90

  • Safou

    Haha! My husband would score 20%! O.o
    or 70% considering he's not christian, but that we do share the same religion.

    And btw, the list does total 100 :
    1) 50
    2)5+5+5=15
    3)10
    4)5
    5)10
    6)10
    Total: 50+15+10+5+10+10 = 100

  • Yuan

    Haha, the boyfriend HAS to be Christian, or else it wouldnt be a passing grade?

  • Jennifer

    To all the people dissing this parents' criteria that the guy has to be Christian, I think most fob/Asian parents would just want the same religion for their future son-in-law.

    My best friend is Hindu and her parents would stipulate a +50 points for any good Hindu boy. Just my .02

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  • meeeee

    I took sociology in uni. One of the surprising stats showed that Socio Economic status and similar religion/values (or lack thereof) was the ONLY factor that showed up in all studies as being the indicator of whether a marriage would last 5 yrs or longer. (i.e. Divorces occur waayyyy more frequently if socio economic status and values differ)

  • youdliketoknow

    anyone that gets cut for not being christian should be happy to not be in such a religiously repressed family.

  • youdliketoknow

    anyone that gets cut for not being christian should be happy to not be in such a religiously repressed family.

  • JJ

    Wow, my parents have the same thing!! Except since we are not Christians, they don't have a religion criteria. Instead they have more points for education, demeanor, hygiene, looks, and job. My parents also rate my cousin's significant others. Even with 65 as the passing grade, most boys I or my cousins dated received a score lower than 50 from my dad.

  • liveyourlifex29

    you’re obviously stupid. #2 says: Same or similar family background in term of social, economic and educational 5 points E A C H (that’s 15)
    so if he got all points, with the highest values – 50+15+10+5+10+10=100

  • guest

    it may be important to the parents, but they’re not the person who may get married.

  • guest

    how did you get the parents’ discretion and they didn’t already know???

  • MILO

    you have tiger parents

  • Anonymous

    So cute. The Christianity criterion is actually very valid for most
    Christian families, not just in an anal, religious way but down to the
    very basics of sharing similar values. If your spouse isn’t fully with
    you when you must give up money and time to God, then you’re gonna have
    much friction on your hands, especially come time to take the kiddies to
    church. I’m happy to see that even eye-on-the-ball Asians prioritize
    Jesus over earthly success (education, wealth). The daughter doesn’t
    seem at all bothered by these expectations (“generous,” in her own
    words), so really, there’s absolutely no room for online strangers to
    criticize.

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